It is commonly claimed that half of all marriages in the United States eventually end in divorce, an estimate possibly based on the fact that in any given year, the number of marriages is about twice the number of divorces, In order to avoid that kind of situation here, experts identify the keys to happy, healthy relationship because this is not just for the marriage couple but to all the non marriage couple out there who wants to keep the relationship stay and last forever.
This week, try one of these surprisingly simple tips everyday. Keep the effort up, relationship needs to be nurtured, researchers say, and you will build a happier relationship.
1. Have realistic expectations - "Frustration is the main reason why partners are unhappy, and it occurs when you don't have realistic expectations about your partner or about relationship" says Terri Orbuch, author of the new book 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great. "Unrealistic expectations rarely get met and then cause you anger, sadness, hurt and other negative emotions".
2. Sweat the small stuff - If it drives you crazy that your husband puts the dishes in the sink every night rather than int he dishwasher, don't just shrug it off. Tell him that it bothers you, Orbuch says. "If you don't address the seemingly meaningless little things that bother you about your spouse, what happens is that those things build up over time and become bigger underlying issues that are much more difficult to resolve. You start thinking, "He doesn't respect me" or "We don't communicate"
3. Consider yourselves a team - With two-income homes the norm and 30% of wives earning more than their husbands, the happiest couples have let go of outdated gender roles and responsibilities, says Jacqueline Del Rosario, a marriage councelor of Miami. "Couples really need to see themselves as equal partners.
4. Accentuate the positive - Focus on what's going right in your relationship and build on those things, rather than dwelling on problems, Orbuch advices. "The happiest couples can identify what's already going well and then find ways to add more of these positive elements to their lives". Maybe it's a shared love of cooking, or tennis. Whatever you do together that makes you happy and connected, make it priority.
5. Remember the little things - "The degree to which you can regularly make your partner feel special is a significant factor in how happy your marriage will be," Orbuch says. Simple comments and gestures - coffee in bed? - may be even more important for husband to receive, she says "In our study, the men who said their wives regularly made them feel special and cared for were significantly happier in their marriages".
To sum it all up:"The truth is that no one knows what's really going on in a relationship except the two people in it. That gives each of us the freedom to write our own rules based on our own emotional needs".
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